佚名/Anonymous
Looking back over my life, it seems to me that I have learned the most when I felt the greatest pain. My mother’s death, for example, made me more profoundly aware of the beauty in nature. My capacity for finding joy in the most ordinary events（watching a flower open, leaves turning red, a bird taking a bath）seems to deepen each time I live through great sorrow. Death makes life more precious;frustration makes success more fulfilling;failure makes the next accomplishment more meaningful.
In order to feel deeply it is necessary to feel everything. It is impossible to choose. You can't really know how great is your sense of joy at a baby's birth or your satisfaction at succeeding at a hard job unless you are also deeply aware of the anguish of separation and the pain of failure. It’s through the capacity to feel that we discover ourselves and others and explore the potential for a full, significant life.
This is an especially crucial issue for parents. Our natural inclination is to try to protect children from pain. We have the mistaken notion that if a child is happy we are doing a good job;if a child is sad we are failing as parents. But giving children the message that happiness is good and sadness is terrible decreases their capacity to explore the full range of human experiences.
Children need to understand that suffering, frustration and failure are not only inevitable but helpful. The parent who took a simple puzzle away from a four-year-old-because“he gets too upset and frustrated when he can't get it right immediately”-did the child a great disservice. Children need to experience such feelings as they grow up;it helps them to develop the patience, persistence and ability to cope with what they’ll need when a scientific experiment fails, or a low grade is received after diligent study. There is nothing so terrible about failing and feeling pain;what hurts in the long run is not trying because of the fear of pain.
回顾我的一生，似乎那些让我觉得最受伤的事情给了我最多的启示。比如，母亲的死让我更深刻地感知了自然中的美丽。每一次我从极大的悲痛中挣扎出来，似乎我在最寻常的事物（赏花开、观叶红、看鸟浴）中发现欢乐的能力就会增强。死亡让生命更加珍贵，挫折让成功更加完美，而失败也让下一次的成功意义更加深刻。
要感受深刻，就需用心去感知一切。除此之外，别无选择。除非你深深地理解分娩的疼痛，否则你不会真正领悟新生命诞生的极大喜悦；除非你深深地理解失败的痛苦，否则你就不能真正地领悟完成艰巨任务后的满足感。我们用这种感知的能力，去发现和探索自己和他人完整而意义重大的人生。
这是父母一个特别的、至关重要的课题。保护孩子不受伤害，这是做父母的天性。我们错误地认为，如果孩子幸福，父母就做得称职；如果孩子不幸福，那么父母就做得很失败。但是，父母给孩子的这种信号——幸福就是好，悲伤就是糟糕，降低了孩子探索全部人生阅历的能力。
孩子们需要懂得苦难、挫折、失败，这不仅仅是不可避免的，也是有益的。父母从四岁孩子的手中拿走他的智力玩具，因为“当他不能快速而准确地做好时，他就会灰心丧气”，这会给孩子造成极大的伤害。在孩子的成长过程中，他需要去感受这种经历，这有助于孩子的耐性、毅力和能力的培养，这正是他们当科学实验失败时，用艰苦的努力换来低回报时所需要的品质。经受失败和感受痛苦并不可怕；在人生的长跑中，真正的痛苦是因害怕痛苦而拒绝尝试。
心灵小语
假如人生没有痛苦，谁都不会关注它，我们关注痛苦，是因为它无法回避，而更多的时候，我们总是与它不期而遇，措手不及。迎战是最好的防守。如果我们学会去理解现实中的痛苦，并坦然面对它，试着去克服，那么就可以到达幸福的彼岸。这既是一种积极的生活态度，更是一种人生智慧。
词汇笔记
profoundly[pr?'fa?ndli]adv.深深地；深切地；深刻地；极度地
This article analyzed the world situation profoundly.
这篇文章深刻地分析了世界形势。
satisfaction[，s?tis'f?k??n]n.满意；欣慰；令人满意的事
She rejects the stereotype that women can only find their true satisfaction in being mothers.
她拒绝接受这种陈词滥调，即女人只有在做母亲时才能感到真正的满足。
anguishe['??ɡwi?]n.（尤指心理上的）极度的痛苦；剧痛；苦恼
CShe cried out for anguish at parting.
分手时，她由于痛苦而放声大哭。
crucial['kru:??l]adj.决定性的；紧要关头的；至关重要的；关键性的
It is crucial to understand each other for friendship.
相互理解对于友谊是至关重要的。
小试身手
死亡让生命更加珍贵，挫折让成功更加完美，而失败也让下一次的成功意义更加深刻。
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孩子们需要懂得苦难、挫折、失败，这不仅仅是不可避免的，也是有益的。
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在人生的长跑中，真正的痛苦是因害怕痛苦而拒绝尝试。
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短语家族
Looking back over my life, it seems to me that I have learned the most when I felt the greatest pain.
look back over：回顾；回想
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……it helps them to develop the patience, persistence and ability to cope with what they’ll need……
cope with：对付；应付
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